Hijab | Life Lessons From my Daughter

So many times as parents, we get caught up with the things we want to teach our children that they overshadow the things our children are teaching us. On a regular basis, I catch myself looking at their splendor and carefree ways, their strength and their ability to live in the present and often wish that the beauty and innocence of simpler times hadn’t evaded me so quickly.

Yesterday in particular, a certain event stood out to me. I saw her twirling and dancing in the lobby, hair sticking out the sides of her hijab and framing her tender face. She saw me and bounced towards the car eager for the shopping trip I promised. Still wearing her hijab when we got to the store, I told her it was ok to take it off, attributing my semi request to the heat. “It’s really hot outside, you can take it off” to which she replies, “why mama? I want to wear it; I want to be just like you.” At her young age of just 5, hijab is not an obligation yet I know I should encourage all actions that will lead her to the straight path. My request was unfortunately a direct result of the fear of being judged, a fear of “people” looking at my 5 year old and assuming that she was compelled to wear it….My daughter on the other hand, oblivious to other people’s opinions. In her mind, as long as she is happy and comfortable that’s all that matters. I internalize that sentiment and can only pray to adapt to it. Her innate ability to be ever present in the moment is admirable, her carefree ways abound. We got home and she removed her hijab, replacing her outfit with a headband and shoes which she claims turn her into a ninja warrior. Somehow to complete her attire, she picks up her princess guitar and as I get ready to run another errand, I have a guitar toting ninja warrior this time. I suggested her leaving it home and sensing my discomfort, she consoles me with “I like it mama, it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks right?” quickly followed by “I feel so happy!!!” in her typical sing song fashion of speaking when overly excited. When I began this parenting journey, I prided myself on choosing outfits I liked and deciding how my children were dressed when leaving the house. 8 years later, this child in particular has taught me to let go of my ideals and allow them to embrace their own as individuals.

So although I teach her every day how to read and spell, do math and science, I thank her for showing me to be bold and brave and live without the fear of being judged, to be present and happy in the moment. I pray that life doesn’t tarnish her strength and confidence and her absolute belief in herself.

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  1. just barath says:

    Beautiful things you write about mam..!! Im nt so learned to comment about all the works
    But it simply looked serene to me.
    It was an experience

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    1. Thank you! I’m so glad you happened upon my blog 🙂 please follow to stay updated.

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  2. amommasview says:

    Unfortunately we face judgement on a daily base. No matter of our religion. People just seem to be wired like this. I can totally see why you were worried but I love how comfortable your daughter feels and it’s an attribute to you and the way you raise her.

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    1. Yes, you’re right judgement is passed for one thing or another. I want to foster that sense of beig within her.

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      1. amommasview says:

        Yes, do that! And good on you for homeschooling! Looking forward to read more about your journey!

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  3. ahmeliahmeli says:

    I love the story told here. One of my first posts was about what I have learned from my son (and I know this is just the beginning of the lessons!). You can read it here: http://ahmeli.com/2016/04/17/joy-through-a-childs-eyes . Ahmeli that I’ll always be open to learning from my children, and they of I.

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    1. That’s a beautiful story you shared through your writing as well.

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  4. Ashlee says:

    Dear Naimah,

    My name is Ashlee. I’m co-founder of the Youshare Project, with the mission to connect people around the world through true, personal stories. I recently stumbled across your blog and read the above post entitled “Life Lessons From My Daughter.” It’s so beautifully written with such a simple, yet profound message. I think it would make a wonderful youshare, because I believe many other people around the world, including myself, could learn from your daughter.

    If this sounds interesting to you, I would love to email you directly with more information and formally invite you to adapt your story to Youshare and share it with the project. You have my email address and website. I hope to hear from you soon.

    Best,
    Ashlee
    http://www.youshareproject.com
    ashlee@youshareproject.com

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    1. Thanks for contacting me Ashlee. I would love to participate in the you share project and would be in contact with you!

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      1. Ashlee says:

        Thanks for your reply, Naimah! I just replied to your email. I look forward to continuing our conversation 🙂

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